I am writing to get information to help my parents. My grandmother, who has dementia, is currently living in their home and has been for several years. My grandmother has had a severe stroke. She cannot hear well or speak. She was living on her own even after the stroke because she is refusing assisted living. My parents were so concerned about her that they allowed her to move into their home. She has gotten worse and requires someone to watch her at all times of the day now. My parents are both busy with work and they also take care of my little brother who is still young. I am concerned about how the living situation is in their home now and I want to make sure my grandmother is getting the proper care and attention she needs. My dad had poa over her until she ran away from their home and started walking down the highway while my parents were at work one day. Someone from PATH brought her home and she claimed my dad was taking all of her money so she revoked him poa. She still tries to leave their home and walk to God knows where until my parents go track her down and bring her home. She has accidents all over their house. She insists on doing their laundry and dishes while they're out and breaks their appliances because she doesn't know how to use them. However, she does not clean herself. She changes her own depends and leaves the mess all over her hands and wipes her hands all over their home. To me, this is a big sanitation issue. My parents are not certified to take care of elders.. they clean up after her everyday when they get home. My mom is also dealing with other family matters and I don't like seeing her under so much stress. She has been putting off the nursing home because my grandma absolutely REFUSES to go. She has talked to social workers and they have advised her to get an attorney and take her to court, but due to financial issues we cannot afford an attorney right now to do that. We have also tried calmly talking to her about going and she still won't go. Does any one have any advise to help get my grandma into a nursing home? PLEASE HELP!