I have done everything possible providing care to my mom. I have covered every base in caregiving for my mom, even though she is in a nursing home. I go everyday and bring her home one day on the weekend. my sibling has her sunday. i have recently started to take fridays off, to recoup from burnout. yet i still feel guilt and i dont know how to overcome it. im afraid to do something for me, for myself, feeling that what if something happens to mom, while im out and i should have been there. logically i understand that whats going to happen will happen regardless, but i feel if i make time for me, i am letting her down. the care is good in the home, but i still make sure she has enough towels, make sure her necklaces are off before bed, make sure her pull ups are stocked in her washroom, and her call bell is working, the psw's dont check these things, she has recently started using a walker, so every night before i leave i also, try to tell her about use of her walker, breaks etc. but she cant remember. i live in fear for the phone call that she has fallen while im not there. my sibling isnt as comitted as i am, and only does what is necessary. she makes sure she has plenty of her own time, which is good for her, but i feel guilt to do that, like im abandoning mom, i am older as well. can you please tell me where to get information on caregiver guilt. thank you.