My niece made a deal with my Mom. The niece promised to remodel her basement with a handicapped bathroom by November 2022 so Mom could live there. In return my mom would buy her a used car and my Mom would give her gorgeous house in Maine to her for free. Me and my brother agreed because we are both in 60’s and we can’t physically or financially take care of our Mom. My Mom put her on the deed in April and nothing she promised has happened. She’s done no work on the basement, is driving my deceased sister's car from 2007, still living in Maine and it's already August.
Has anyone gone through this?
I'd talk TO her.
So many things could have happened. The supply chain is broken so badly--we've been waiting for 6 months for patio doors. IDK if we will ever get them.
Trying to do a remodel when you are NOT experienced in it is a nightmare. Maybe you can help Jasmine out with some sage advice, before you start pointing fingers. A 15 yo car is hardly something to ruin family relationships over.
Only I'm thinking the OP (Bekind2022) has a lot of gaps in the her version of things.
The grandmother is HER mother, not her niece's. Between herself and her brother they can't at least communicate with the niece and find out what's going on?
My guess is the niece is young and wants to back out of having grandma move in. She's probably afraid to say so because she doesn't want to let everyone down.
How many times in my 20's did I get railroaded into baby-sitting someone's old person or kid for free because I didn't want to let anyone down. Too many times.
So, why don't you and your brother try talking to her instead of about her.
You say she's driving your deceased sister's 15 year old car. Was that sister her mother? If she was, then I'd say your niece has a lot more right to the vehicle than you or your brother do.
Do you have a legal agreement in writing stating that your niece agrees to do this remodeling to her home and have your mother moved in by a certain date?
Unless you have a contract with her, you can't hold her to anything.
Yes, time for a lawyer.
P.S. Where is Mom living now.
It could be she has a contractor all lined up but he can't start work until later in the year. With covid slowing down remodeling in 2020 and 2021, this year people have been busy updating.
Unless the mother has a written, legal contract with her niece agreeing to do these home renovations by a certain date in exchange for a propery and a used car, there is nothing a lawyer can do.
And mom should not be giving any assets away. If she needs care and Medicaid, she will be penalized and not eligible for medicaid assistance because of the gift.
Mom NEEDS to see an elder law attorney, NOW!
Did a lawyer look it over?
Has your niece always been trustworthy and true to her word?
What does she say when you ask about the schedule for her gma to move in?