I am the primary caregiver for my elderly mother and will be having surgery this week to remove my thyroid. Its an hour surgery with a 24 hour hospital stay but it was a surprise event-- I went for my checkup in early June to discover that my nodules had grown significantly and needed to be removed ASAP. My mother is not handling this well. Despite reassurances from everyone involved (dr, surgeon, other people we know who've had the same surgery with the same surgeon, other people who've had relatives who had the same surgery years ago), her emotions keep see-sawing back and forth.
I understand her worry, at the very least she's my mother and worry is part of the job, but it's beyond that. She's not just worried about me and my health, she's worried about herself. She's a dependent person who has never been able to live alone. She and my stepfather lived together 24/7 for 20+ years and when he died, she transferred all her dependency to me. I am a single woman with no family of my own and no brothers or sisters to share the load. Everything I say or do to reassure her only seems to last a short time and then we're back to crying and/or yelling again.
Thanks for letting me vent. I just needed to get out my own frustration regarding this situation, I'm not expecting a magical solution.