Just got off the phone with Mom. She is going to be 97 this year, lives in a senior living home (not assisted living, it's independent) and just simply won't do anything to help herself. According to her, she can't, nothing will work. I bring up various solutions to her many problems -- Noooo, that won't work, I can't. I have not had a real full-time job since 2015 because -- I can't. Haven't had a romantic relationship & just talk to my ex of 8 years because I dedicate my life to her. While I realize, I've made my bed and must lie in it, I've decided I can't go on like this and am now looking for a full-time, permanent job that I can stay with for many years. (Anyone in the Atlanta area that needs a great Administrative Assistant or Receptionist, contact me!!! I guess I shouldn't let a networking opportunity pass me by!) What got me is she just asked if I was coming by tonight. Was I supposed to, I asked. I was just there yesterday bringing her back rub, medicine & even McDonalds as a treat.
Add to that, she keeps asking me why God is letting her live so long. (Her 7 brothers & sisters have long since passed & SHE was the most sickly of all of them). I told her I wasn't the one to ask - out of my pay range as Dr. Phil would say- that it kinda pains me to talk about it, and asked if I could get my priest to come talk to her (I've done that before, it did seem to help a bit.) Answer - NO, she doen't want to see anyone. I set-up a rather wonderful support network, in my opinion. RN comes to her, lab people comes to her, cleaning people of Center of the Aging comes to her. She never wants to see any of them, although she has to, so she whines and there we go again!
She is in her hospital bed, which she has difficulty getting in and out of because of her back -- It's always been bad, degenerated discs, and she recently had a freak fall & when the paramedics asked if she wanted to go to the hospital she said a forceful NO! It will kill her, she says, she can't handle the ambulance ride nor the rehab place they would send her. Everything I suggest is no, no, it will NEVER work! I finally hung up a few minutes ago & told her "I love you, but I don't know how much longer I can deal with this, we have to figure out something" Her response..... "Well what about me and the way I feel?" ARRRRGGGGHHHHH! help... I'm drowning.