My father passed last November, and now my mom is alone. She won't move in with me, nor will she even consider looking at assisted living facilities. She will not have any senior caregivers come to the house, either. My mother has always looked to others for her happiness, not within herself. She has always blamed everything and everyone else for her unhappiness. Since my childhood, my mom could have won 'The Complainer of the Year' award, if one was being given away. My dad put up with her incessant griping for 69 years, and now that he's gone, it's my turn. Brother is 1100 miles away, so he's not available to help. No matter how hard I try to please her, it's NEVER enough or good enough. Everyday when I go to her house, if she starts complaining and being argumentative, I tell her that I am not arguing with her and I leave. I don't want to end up saying something that I'll regret later. Mom's 87, in fairly good health, with some forgetfulness. Any suggestions on handling her would be appreciated. Thanks.
All people, no matter there age, want to be in control, make their own decisions. Your job is to facilitate her decisions, not make them. She raised a wonderful daughter, she must be doing something right. Get rid of your angst, and enjoy her.
that wasnt a hateful, sexist statement, just a funny joke.