My mother lives in Northampton, at Hampton house. Since losing her 3rd husband in December 2015 she has become more and more depressed. Moving back into Hampton House, she complains continuely they are charging her too much and she has no money to live, so she may as well just end it. I received a message this morning that she is more and more seriously considering it. She has become involved on a couple occasions with "scammers" and they have taken quite a bit of money from her, while she completely believed they cared for her. She should not be driving, but refuses to give it up. (she has cysts behind her left eye and is leading to glaucoma. She often mentions seeing spots in that eye. She does have aides that come into help her and a physio therapist, however, she lies to them all.
The will not tell them how she feels, that she is having trouble walking, breathing, and very depressed. She will be honest with me, sending me messages about she feels. She complains of money issues, however, I know what she receives and it just doesn't add up. Much of her money goes to these men she is meeting on line and asking for money. It is done out of loneliness and as she is realizing what is happening, she becomes more and more depressed. She is threatening suicide now and has given up.
I do not live near by, at the moment I am in Australia, but do have power of attorney. I am not sure what to do to help as I know she will lie to anyone who confronts her. As I mentioned I do have some of her messages sent as proof.
What are my options? I know she needs to have her license revoked and at this point believe needs to be placed in a nursing home with continuous care and for someone to control her SSI and Pension, as she is not capable at this time.