A year ago this week my dad and I lost mum to cancer. Dad still lives at home by himself at this stage, he is 77. He has Diabetes (Niddm), Severe Lumbar/Cervical Spine Degeneration, Hypercholesterolaemia, Emphysema, Gord and Migraines and depression. He is in a lot of pain most of the time and feeling unwell. The worst thing he can do for himself is to lie around all day in bed which he has been told a thousand times but refuses to believe, so spends all day everyday in bed. The most frustrating thing at this point is that he refuses to do anything at all to help himself and is obsessed with himself to the point it is all he ever talks about to anyone. His doctor has tried to encourage him to get help by talking to someone and getting help to think differently about his situation and his pain, but he refuses to do that as well. It has basically become a situation that everything that can be done for him medically is being done and it is up to him to help himself the rest of the way but he refuses. He won't listen to anyone when trying to help him but expects everyone to listen to him about the same issues over and over again. I know this sounds very unsympathetic from me, but we can't do anymore for him and I am at the end of my tether listening to him say the same things over and over again every day. I don't know how to get him to wake up to himself and help himself so he can have a better life than what he has now.