After my Mom's brain injury, my Dad as become the caregiver. However, at times my Dad feels frustrated at this role he was put in. My Mom can be very difficult to deal with sometimes and has little motivation to do things herself. This only increases my Dad's frustration. He definitely needs some help with the caregiving duties, but is very stubborn ... I (the son) am not sure how best to help them. Both my parents are 70.
Once his defenses are down, he may be less prideful.
Thanks for caring so much,
At the time, I was completely unprepared to deal with this. No one I knew was in a similar situation and the Alzheimer's Association was just beginning to grow local chapters. A site like this would have been a blessing. That is why I encourage you to read through the responses you receive. We have been there and have learned from each other and from experts like Carol. Take what works and leave the rest. You are not alone in this journey.
The trick is to see what time your mom is the most comfortable, so that your dad isn't entertaining you (or a visitor) and assisting your mom at the same time. A time when the visitor can visit or sit with mom so dad can have a little "me" time.
You're such a great son. I hope this is helpful.
First of all, thank you for being a son that cares.
You said that your parents are both 70 years of age. This means that your father's caregiving duties could go on and on and on and his frustration will just get worse and worse. He may realize this and wonder how he can face such a future. Does your mother have friends that could give your dad a break at least a couple of times a week? Would your dad allow you to look after your mom for at least part of a day so that he can "goof off"? If there are grown grandchildren near by, maybe they could pitch in once in a while too. Also, it sounds like Health1 has suggested a website that will be helpful.
Good luck to you and yours and please let us know what happens.