Mom has gotten to the point where, 12 years after being diagnosed and still at home with my dad, she went to a nursing facility. Mom has excellent care there, and seems to like it there as long as dad is not around. However, everytime he has gone there mom crys and begs dad to take her home. Dad trys to reason with her and tell her it can not happen, but this seems to make things worse, and is really eating at him, and tears him up every time he goes for a visit. She has been there abour 4 months now. I know that dad will not go to a counslor or any other type of group. He will admit to me, his oldest son that this affects him greatly, but the quickly says everything is "fine". I know it is not and is now starting to effect his life and I believe he is now starting to fall into depression. What can I do to "discretly" help him? I have tried a direct approach and he bristles, and shuts down. I thought if there perhaps a book that could help if I gave it to him he would read it as he still reads often to occupy his time. He does live alone at home.