His doctor just referred him for hospice at home. He's 87 with severe COPD. Recently he's much weaker and more short of breath. He lives independently and has always been a "loner" who wants no help except for me doing his shopping and errands. I was relieved he spent a couple of days in the hospital this weekend so I could clean his apartment! He has typically said "no" to anything his doctor or I have suggested. I feel like the doctor and I just wore him down yesterday to the point where he agreed to the hospice referral. It makes me so sad to have to convince him to do something pro-active. He just keeps saying "I'll cross that bridge when I come to it" but as I told him at the doctor's office yesterday - he's at that bridge.
Can anyone tell me what to expect in the way of palliative care for his COPD? I know he won't want social or pastoral services, or even help with daily activities.
Any suggestions on how to deal with a crusty, obstinate but sort of loveable ol' codger?