I am new to this forum. My parents live in the Twin Cities and I am in Fargo. Dad has pulmonary fibrosis which took an extreme turn in December and he is now on 24-hour per day oxygen. Mom has been his caregiver and yesterday they told her they think she may have some fairly advanced cancer. I am waking up in a panic, not sleeping, can barely breathe. This is my parents and their world and my world is ending. I don't know how to get through this, let alone buck up and be the caregiver. I had two detached retinas and some TBI -- I got hit by a car while bike riding-- so I have some health issues of my own. Any helpful suggestions would be so welcome. My parents have also been very resistant to help. This really stresses my limited emotional and physical resources. I am capable of finding some help, but not of fighting their extreme obstinance. Meals on Wheels was like World War 3. I don't understand this, either. I would also appreciate insight on how to deal with helping them get help. Overwhelmed. Overwhelmed. Overwhelmed.