My main problem is that I can't drive (never have). I'm 70 years old and my husband has been fighting stage IV lung cancer for a little over 3 years now. His cancer is "stable" but everything else is breaking down. He has had 2 mini strokes, shingles, diabetic coma (blood sugar dropped to 24 due to illness that caused dehydration), lose of stability (says his legs are very weak and start giving out on him when he has been standing for less then a few mins., We also have a two level townhouse with the shower and baths upstairs with the bedrooms. My husband has been sleeping on the couch (I use a baby monitor to hear if he needs me during the night). So when he wants to take a shower I have to give him enough support to get up the stairs and into the shower and back down. He has also lost control of his bowel during the night. I wanted to get in home services to at least help him get to his shower but he doesn't want a stranger in the house. I'm also a 16 year breast cancer survivor and I don't have very much strength myself.