My father in law is 81 and is in a nursing home, he has advanced Parkinson's and wears diapers only - I would like to bring him to our house to visit occasionally but worry about how to change the diapers. He can't help and he is heavy - 185 lbs or so.
Any advice on how to change him? I can perhaps get him on the toilet. I also worry that while he can't talk he is embarassed by this and would not want me or my husband handling it.
hang in there it is tough, i am a female and i had to do it for grandfather we both hated it make it fast as possible and i did'nt make eye contact while cleaning and changing it was ackward enough already.
Make your mind a blank -- don't think, just do the job and you then have a "professional" attitude and it doesn't tend to be embarassing to either party. Also by not thinking but by watching what you are doing without judging, you can see what's going on and are less likely to have a mess. (I should talk, I pulled the bed pan out and got poop on my arm, oye)
I like the diapers which slide on like pants. I get the super absorbent ones. I get them because I can figure out how to put them on him. I make him do pelvic thrusts to help get them on. Quite a process. Lots of work. But that's life.
Good luck. Hope this helps.