My 87 year old mother is in the very early stages of heart failure. She has a little bit of retention in her feet and gets winded when walking long distances; (example walking around the grocery store), but at rest she is fine. She lives with me, but she can still care for herself, and stays home alone all day when my husband and I are at work. The doctor was not much help in telling me what to expect in the future and basically just said "everybody is different." I just want to know, what are other people's experiences with heart failure? About how long will it be before she needs constant care? I can't retire until I am 66, and I just turned 63 today (happy birthday to me) I absolutely will not put her in a nursing home. I am an only child. My daughter sometimes stops in to check on her now, but she has kids of her own and it isn't like she could care for her everyday all day.