I am not a touchy feely person by nature (take after my dad) and it is compounded by the fact that my mom used to rub her hands up my inner thigh when I was a teenager, which made me feel violated. Now my mom, 91 with dementia, wants me to hold her hand and kiss her and touch her. I cringe every time. Best I can manage is a quick peck on the cheek. My brother is willing to sit by her, hold her hand, stroke her arm, etc. My mom keeps saying how much it hurts her that I won't touch her. I am guessing I need some sort of desensitization therapy. Anyone else have ideas?