Any advice? Had a rough day. Actually having a rough month fed up.
My Mom ended up not taking her medication on time she is suppose to take one with every meal it is for Parkinson s she sometimes doesn't take her morning one till 11 am and it's not being on scheduled some days she is really good I remind her all the time I even bought a pill box with the days mark on it well today we finally got out I set it all up with an old friend of her's because she has Isolated her self and that makes me feel Isolated also. I have no life I do every thing for her full time caregiver. I guess I need to hand over her medication and watch her? Well when I found out today after we arrived back from her friends it was 2 o'clock and I look at the pill box and seen that the morning one wasn't taken and now it is past lunch time so two are behind so I told my Mom again you need to take your med's on time Mom and then she snuck and had her husband bring her lunch time pill at 3:15 so two pills with an hour well I got really upset and said you can't be doing that you could get sick I was going on a roll even threaten to tell her Doctor her husband just shook his head like always and I said why are you shaking your head I call him on it for once he said your Mom is capable of taking care of her self then I snapped and said well what am I doing here then??? well I have to make sure she takes it on time I care about her what if she has a reaction anyways I am already at my breaking point this just tops it all off I have Fibromyalgia Then I said sorry to my Mom about harping on her about the medication I could see in my Moms face and speech she was getting overwhelm so I started feeling guilty I could see in my Step-Father's eyes that he knew that he was getting me upset. Hello I do his laundry and breakfast etc the works. So upset right now heading for a complete melt down none of my siblings care seriously fed up, I already ask my sister for help she freak out on me and said our Step-Dad's daughter can come vacuum I only ask because my back was in pain plus she offer to help before she was going to bring premade meals never happen plus all these other airy promises I have Fibromyalgia syndrome it affects the muscles and soft tissue, chronic muscle pain, fatigue, sleep problems etc. I also suffer from OCD and anxiety my relationship is falling apart I am at my wits end love my Mom dearly but she is two faced with her husband than with me complaining about him. Now my partner is upset about my Step - Dad saying your Mom is capable of taking care of her self. What do I do now?
I finally (with the help of my mom's doc) realized I can't make myself sick because my mom is living her life the way she wants. You can't either. Let your folks do what they want to do. Offer help if they ask. You don't control the world and you can't make people do what's best for them unless they want to do that. You'll just make yourself sick in the process. So like NancyH says, let it go. If your mom gets sick, she gets sick. You've done what you can do. The bad news is, you don't control the universe. But the good news is, you don't control the universe! So put down that burden and give yourself a break. Set some limits on what you'll do and how involved you'll be. It's not your burden to carry alone.