I want to run away and leave behind my mom with ALZ, my dad who's in denial about it, and my sister with her family who all choose to put blinders on and act like everything is OK. How do you cope with family issues you can't tolerate during "happy holiday" season?
We always had holidays at mom & dad's until this year. Mom can no longer prepare meals, no longer clean house, no longer organize events and dad is her primary caretaker picking up where he can and thinking she will some day get better. Sister doesn't want to get her hands dirty with any level of care for mom & dad so she denies most of everything, interrupts any conversation I initiate about it, and only seems interested in how we make everything perfect for her adult children while we have the holiday celebration at her house.
I do not feel like being a part of any "show" this year. I think my sister is actually looking forward to having it at her house and being the center of all the attention - but she doesn't realize things are not the same anymore. The mom we had is gone forever. The family she grew up in is also gone. Her lack of awareness on family dynamics is causing me to turn away from her because I just can no longer relate to her.
I think mom brought us all together, but now that particular element is gone. Has anyone else felt similar? How do you manage your feelings of disappointment and frustration with your family and just "put on a happy face"? Thanks.
our son around with petty things that could've waited.
Also cranked around with the thermostat that apparently
he no longer knows how to operate. Up and down
from his chair, which is a real struggle and then give steps to the thermo. Can't stand for more than a minute,
Plops into desk chair then we can't get up and out of it
back into the lift chair which he hates to use. Repeat
give or six times. Then he stands up and announces he
needs to pee! Where's the pee bottle?!?! This in front
of company.
Then the icing on the cake the hot water water links
our in the main bath. Ho ho ho! His sis and bil
are coming fri. They're very nice people. Hope they
offer to bring lunch...maybe babysit for 10 or 12 hrs.
Oh well, it could be worse, and it most likely will.
Hope all of you survived mostly intact. There's a special
place for us.
Can't correct them now..cheers!
Sounds like a good idea leaving him where he is in his current state. Visit him there and then go home for your own celebration. Wish I could do that.