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I tried in home, hands-on caregiving with my 94 year old mother with Alzheimer’s stage 5-6. I was 60 at the time. Hubs and I tried to unite to assist her but sometimes the person being cared for is totally unreasonable, violent, uncooperative, etc. and drives a wedge between the married couple. We got more and more grouchy with each other because we couldn’t get grouchy with her. She lived with us for only 3 months before she went back to a different memory care facility. It was like a boulder was lifted off us. Our focus could be each other again instead of her and having to be on high alert 24/7.
We have grown children out of the home so I can’t speak to that.
My advice; Do not bring a severely demented loved one into your home. It will ruin any relationships for you and whoever else lives with you.
It is also very taxing to be a caregiver for an immobile person. I have seen and heard of hands on c/g’s (years younger) dying BEFORE the elderly family member.