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My Mom is 95 and lives in an independent living home, she is basically deaf without her hearing aids. She is hard to wake up and the managers are worried if there is a fire she would not wake up to the fire alarm and knock on the door. They are requiring her to have a sitter from 7pm to 7 am nightly which is very expensive if she doesn’t move to the assisted living.
She does not want to move; and if she did, I feel as if that would be the downfall of my mother. Has a situation happened like this to any of y’all. Looking for alternatives to pose to the management.
Thank you,
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You both are looking at it the wrong way. Does Mom realize that "Assisted Living" is not this huge downfall, she is not in lockdown or looses her "independence."
Assisted Living means no more cooking, cleaning and laundry?

She still can come and go as before. She is not moving to a totally different location or state, is she? This is not a "humiliating" change for anyone at the age of 95! Worse would be having "babysitter" there every night, with no privacy. Not to mention the extra cost.
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Hotel rooms have lighted alarms for deaf people and lighted door bells for deaf people. Can you look into something that the deaf community uses for wakeups?
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This is probably a legal liability situation for the home. You probably don't have a choice. How would assisted living be that different? She could still come and go as she wants. She is very fortunate to have made it to 95 before needing this kind of help. I know it will be frustrating to break the news to her if she resists, but it is for her safety.
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PeggySue2020 2 hours ago
I agree if the step up is just to assisted living versus sticking her in and making her pay for a locked mc unit. She is just deaf.
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