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When mom was alive and suffering from Alzheimer’s, she ate 2-3 Klondike ice cream bars a day. Now, my father, who is 94 with cognitive impairment, wants only cream of mushroom soup and cherry pie. It drives me crazy, and I’m wondering if anyone else has this issue.

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My mother ate the same food every day of her life for about 20 years.

When she woke up every morning, she drank a large cup of strong coffee with a dollop of heavy cream and two teaspoons full of sugar.

For breakfast she ate a small ground round burger fried in butter, a boiled potato mashed with butter, and a cup of applesauce.

For the feast of the day she ate cookies, and sometimes ice cream.

She was vigorous and active, and until having a stroke after about 15 yers of eating this way, mentally as sharp as a tack.
After the stroke, she returned to her original diet, and lived independently for another 5 years before a badly broken hip resulted in residential placement for another 5 good years before she died at 95.

As I saw it, each day she was consuming protein, a veggie, fruit and some calcium. She cooked every meal she ate by herself.

I was glad that she was able to live by herself, do her own banking until she was 89, and boss me around as she had my whole life.

Her peculiar eating habits worked for her and weren’t my business, and since I knew I’d never be able to change her, they didn’t drive me crazy.
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I like your spirit, Ann.
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My former husband's Granny ate Campbell's Cheddar Cheese soup daily for the last 15 years of her life. Another elderly uncle only ate hot dogs towards the end of his life.

There comes a point where we have to just let them eat what they want.
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againx100 Mar 2020
I'm not at that point for my mom, but I can see that at some point it's just like, whatever.
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At some point there is comfort in knowing what food is on the plate.
There is no decision to make and you know it is "safe"
As my Husbands dementia progressed the only restaurant he was comfortable at was a buffet type. He did not have to "read" a menu, he did not have to make a decision as to what he wanted. He could look and foods that he recognized ended up on his plate.
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Shell38314 Mar 2020
That actually makes sense! Why pick one thing when you can have many things at once!
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Chocolate milk. Twice a day since stroke 2028 (would be more if not limited).

Don't remember her drinking that before.
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I think there are cycles of things...first, she liked egg sandwiches, then half of an egg sandwich. Now, it grits...that is the go to breakfast.

the other is gnocchi (pasta), she eats that several times a week.

Plus, always likes a sweet to finish the meal.

I think it comes down to what’s easy for her to eat.
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My grandpa ate a baked potato 5 nights a week and condensed chicken noodle soup the other 2, he had bacon, eggs, hashbrowns and toast 7 days a week for the last 10 years of his life.

Nothing could entice him to eat anything else.
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Yes, both parents (mid 90s). They were really into oatmeal cookies, hard boiled or scrambled eggs, oatmeal, bananas, soup, nuts, ice cream, grilled chicken, See's Candies, Ensure, tapioca pudding, pasta, green salad and fruit salad.

Of course, their diets were more varied in general, but these were THE items.

I miss my folks so much.
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gdaughter Mar 2020
God bless Mrs. See:-)
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So, I am thinking, after reading what elderly parents ate, living well into their 90's +............

Some of those dietary choices sound good!
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LNReason Mar 2020
Like your humor
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Yea, and I quit worrying about...that they are eating and hopefully drinking is a good thing. If they'll take a multi-vitamin...good thing. It's more damaging imo to our health to stress about it. Ice cream is nutritious! Not so much the cream of mushroom soup...and pie...but heck, when we get to that age don't you want the right to eat what you want? My mom was fixated on ice cream for a long while. Now she's into olives. Black olives, green olives. OLIVES. Salty snacks/chips. SWEETS...candy. BUT she will also eat grapes. ANd then she spits the skins into the kitchen sink. :-) Yes, just lovely.
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I am watching a PBS documentary on Julia Child. Fascinating woman! She really was. Yes, an extraordinary cook but she was truly a remarkable woman.

She was as unpretentious as can be. She definitely was ahead of her time as a woman, going to culinary school and learning french cooking, going onto have a television show and so on.

I adore her passion! Her husband was her soulmate. She overcame breasts cancer. He had heart disease and landed in a nursing home for four years.

Her husband was cremated. Very touching, seeing how she threw his ashes into the waves and hear her saying goodbye to him. She had quite a love story with him. Quite a love for cooking too.

You know, she loved that the French consider eating well their birthright. So, in that same vein, let the elderly eat as they wish!
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Sendhelp Mar 2020
Have you seen the movie: Julie and Julia?
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Thanks for the responses - I feel better to know others have dealt with this issue - I couldn’t remember ever seeing it mentioned. I agree, that at 90+, eating what you want is one of the few pleasures left to them. To me, eating canned cream of mushroom soup everyday is more of a punishment - it even looks ugly🤪. I suppose, I really focused on it because of the current situation- other people panic over toilet paper - me, cream of mushroom soup! I have not been able to find the particular cherry pie for 3 weeks now and his supply is now depleted. I’m trying to sub in ice cream for the time being. I do make him drink protein also. Thanks again for sharing your stories, on this and everything else. It helps so much to know that you are not alone on this journey.
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gdaughter Mar 2020
It is a special shade of gray isn't it LOL??? I'm surprised they don't have a paint color named after it!
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My husband loves cool whip. He didn't use to like it daily. The things he use to love he doesn't care for those foods. I think of all the variety of lunches I made for him all the time. Now, he loves peanut butter and grape jelly sandwhiches. There is an upside to this disease at times.
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My mother only eats 2 meals a day--breakfast is a cup of coffee and an egg. "Lunch/dinner" is a salad that she makes so precisely every single day I can do it in my sleep. It's kind of gross b/c she puts 1/2 cup of Thousand Island dressing on it, so it's more like a soup. I cannot watch her eat it.

She is 90 and barely moves in a day, so the calories must be about right, she has maintained her weight for years on this diet.

Oh, before the quarantine, she would go to lunch once a week. Other than that, I don't think her shopping list has varied in 5 years.
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I am sort of a madwoman making dinners that will be tasty and healthful for my folks (92 and 90) and I'm constantly buying them treats to keep their weight up (especially my dad who has Parkinson's). Seems that I'm the one gaining weight from the treats and the food. My mom is a picky eater, but I think if I gave my father pasta with tomato sauce every night, he'd live on that. At the end of the day, as long as your dad is eating, it's good.
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My husband has eaten toast and vegemite for breakfast for over 60 years. I asked him how he coped on his work trip to Europe. Yes, he took it with him, and also took extra jars as presents for the Germans he met at work there. You don’t have to be old to be loopy!
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Beatty Apr 2020
Foodie, not loopy! Vegemite toast is an essential food item 😊

Add butter, slice of cheese, scrambled eggs & top with baby spinach & mini Roma tomatoes & you have the perfect meal.
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My fathers was oatmeal. He had oatmeal morning noon and night. I wondered how he would survive but he did with the help of me sneaking powdered protein into it and a nutrition drink a day. Even with dialysis 3 times a week he still onlg ate oatmeal.
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