Has anyone here gone the route of turning responsibility for a parent over to the state? My mom and I were never close, but when her husband went to a nursing home and she was evicted by his sons, I stepped in to help her, because it was the right thing to do. I got a durable POA and a healthcare POA, moved her into an independent living apartment, and because she could no longer drive, I drove there every single week, for over three years, to take her supplies and groceries and to clean her apartment--which was difficult for me because she's a hoarder, and within one week she could trash the place. It also took me back to that horrible experience growing up in filth. Anyway, eventually she had to be placed in a county subsidized AA place where she is now. Mostly, my life got easier after that, but she's 87 and has had a few health problems that have required me to drop everything to take her to the doctor. I don't have a job where I can leave work and the work will still be waiting when I return. I walk dogs and they need to be walked while the clients are at work. To miss work could mean accidents in the house and damage to carpets and floors that I would have to pay for--and could cost me my clients and business. If I don't take her when she needs to go, that's neglect. So, as much as I hate to consider it, I have thought of relinquishing my POAs and letting her become a ward of the state. However, I wonder if anyone knows how things get transferred if I do--will she maintain her Kaiser healthcare? Will she still be taken to her necessary appointments? She has to have an injection in her left eye every 8 weeks. Do I need to turn over important documents like her birth certificate and SS card? Will her level of care suffer? It's not an easy decision, or one I want to make, but I also can't afford to sacrifice my sanity and my livelihood. Any advice?