I have had both medical and financial for my mother for the last two years and am thinking of transferring to the NH where she resides in Skilled Nursing. What pros and cons did you experience?
Please consult with an Elder Law attorney. Naming the NH does not seem like a good move at all, for the reasons stated by others. Plus I don’t think you have that ability. An Elder Law attorney can advise you far better than any of us.
Having the role of financial and medical POA is a job. Plain and simple. It is managing the care and life of another person. There are no benefits, there are no financial gains, there is a lot of time required and the worry that you're going to make a mistake that could cost them dearly. I understand no longer wanting do claim the role, but do you feel comfortable allowing the nursing home to be responsible for your mom? The nursing home is a business. The people who work there constantly change jobs. Would you want that entity responsible for your life? I am guessing your mom wouldn't either. Find another family member who will make decisions in your mothers best interest.
If the authority who holds POA is the NH Management - who could potentially benefit from either financial payments or have a bias to medical decisions.. it could leave room for conflicting interests or even (at worse) abuse.
If you want to step down, I'd get legal advice. I'd personally prefer a third party that was not affiliated with the NH to reduce risk (ie keep 'em honest!)
I was advised (by a Social Worker) that sometimes to preserve a relationship it is beneficial to have a third party be Guardian/POA/other authority instead of a family member. Especially if there is conflict or the legal chores are very burdonsome. This would also be to preserve your own health & wellbeing.
I have seen this myself with financial.. having a trustee in charge removed so much stress on family.
If your mother is cognizant she can change POA for her medical and financial affairs. If she is not cognizant then the POA can not be changed by you. You can see the attorney that did the paperwork to begin with and most likely what would happen is that another family member would be made her Guardian. If no one wants to take this on (not an easy task) then mom would be assigned a Court Appointed Guardian. She would then be a Ward of the State.
Seems odd. The mom trusts you enough to decide everything, so why wouldn't she trust you to make the decision that someone else would be a better poa than yourself? If you are no longer able to do it and know you are doing a crappy job, but know another person who is willing and able to do it (and mom cannot herself reassign) then it seems much better for the new person to take over than the STATE! How horrible that would be. Talk about people would don't care and just being a number in an overburderened system...
If the authority who holds POA is the NH Management - who could potentially benefit from either financial payments or have a bias to medical decisions.. it could leave room for conflicting interests or even (at worse) abuse.
If you want to step down, I'd get legal advice. I'd personally prefer a third party that was not affiliated with the NH to reduce risk (ie keep 'em honest!)
I was advised (by a Social Worker) that sometimes to preserve a relationship it is beneficial to have a third party be Guardian/POA/other authority instead of a family member. Especially if there is conflict or the legal chores are very burdonsome. This would also be to preserve your own health & wellbeing.
I have seen this myself with financial.. having a trustee in charge removed so much stress on family.
You can see the attorney that did the paperwork to begin with and most likely what would happen is that another family member would be made her Guardian. If no one wants to take this on (not an easy task) then mom would be assigned a Court Appointed Guardian. She would then be a Ward of the State.
Doesn't she have any back-up people named to take over? You can't just assign POA to someone else.
Are you no longer willing to be your mom's advocate? There must be more to this situation.