My mom lives in southern CA with my stepdad. Mom has moderate Parkinsonism but is in good mental health. She is a sweetheart. Stepdad has a variety of serious ailments, including severe COPD. They will be moving into a lovely AL apartment soon.
I am wondering if Stepdad passes first, if one of her children might choose to live with Mom in an Independent Living apartment, paying the "extra person" fee. He or she could help Mom with primary care and use paid caregivers for certain tasks and respite. The siblings could swap out for a couple of weeks or a couple of months. This would enable Mom financially to stay in the community after Stepdad passes and give the sibling a very nice place to live and eat while enjoying the gorgeous weather and use of Mom's vehicle.
Has anyone had experience with such an arrangement or know someone who has?