My dad recently moved to MC. he is prescribed Aricept twice daily along with lorazepam in the late afternoon. Apparently, if doctor approved residents may have up to 2 beers per day. My dad sees others with beer and now continuously asks for it. His sister brought him a 12 pack of beer and put it in the refrigerator of his room. I was LIVID and told the nurse to have it removed. He has had a drinking problem since as far back as I can remember. Prior to moving to MC, when living on his own, was kicked out of the local golf course bar for inappropriate behaviors, breaking things, stealing, etc. If he gets kicked out of here I have no idea where he will be able to go.
Beer is usually 4-8% alcohol
Scotch (booze) can be 40-90% alcohol
Beer is not booze, nor is amaretto to or other liquors
A doc approving of a beer is not approving booze.
No one has mentioned that with dementia, a person may forget that they had already had one beer. So, they might have another. And, another. And, another, til that 12 pack is GONE, in one session.
There is zero self awareness or self-regulation by the time most dementia patients arrive in MC.
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The AL where he and my Mom are, have "happy hour", but some residents get the non-alcoholic version, but if we're there, they'll give you the real stuff along with some other who live in the apartments there. They seem to know who is who, and what to serve to whom.
Don't make a big deal of this with dad until you have spoken with the doc. Do you live nearby? How often do you visit?
I don't see how a couple of beers will harm anything. Pick your battles with medications he takes in mind.
How do you define drinking problem? One of two beers a day? A fifth of vodka a day? What do you know, first hand, about dad being tossed out of the bar? How long ago was that and how old was he?
Sorry, but there are so many tea totallers here that any alcohol is too much alcohol.
All residents have refrigerators in their rooms. Housekeeping cleans the apartments weekly. I visit my dad daily. I bring him bottled water and a few caffeine free diet cokes because he likes them. My father was fall down drunk nearly every weekend while I was growing up and physically abusive to my mother. I do consider that a drinking problem. On all applications I specifically noted alcoholism.
The one question I did not think to ask when moving my father to this facility was if they allowed alcohol. And I did consult with APS and a county social worker prior to moving him, both people knew my dad has aggression and had been abusing alcohol recently.
Assisted living facilities allow alcoholic beverages but not memory care. I toured both when I was considering placing my mom.
The memory care facility didn’t even allow a microwave in the rooms! When I asked why they said that residents were burning popcorn in their rooms and other mishaps when they tried to heat up food.
What is going on with your aunt? I would tell her that you didn’t appreciate her bringing beer to your dad and not to do it again. You were right to ask that the beer was removed.
Have a copy handy with a note at the bottom were the director signs that his is now aware of the consequences if Dad is given beer. I would also note in the letter that no one is to bring him beer from the outside unless non-alcoholic. If they do, the person is to be asked to take it off the premises.
I would then call Dear Aunt and tell her that you have contacted the director that no alcohol is to be brought in to Dad. If she does sneak some in and Dad causes damages, you will direct the facility to bill her. And, if you find she has even tried to bring alcohol in, you will ban her from visiting.
An alcoholic cannot have one beer or one drink. There is no such thing. I have a neighbor who loved my rum mince pies. I was asked by his wife if I could make them with no rum. Seems even the taste of the rum (alcohol dissipates during cooking) can set an alcoholic to drinking.
Yes facilities often will allow residents to have alcoholic beverages.
Many IL and AL have "bars" where residents can either keep their bottles in a locked area or they have an actual bar and drinks are sold.
In MC alcohol can be provided but in most cases it is more controlled.
IF his doctor thinks that alcohol can be served to him SAFELY his record should indicate that. IF his doctor does not think it is safe then that should also be indicated.
If whoever is POA for Health does not want him drinking that should be indicated as well and those orders should be followed.
IF the beer is of great importance to him I would say switch, gradually if need be, to a non alcoholic beer.
I've never heard of a memory care allowing it though. With peoples minds already messed up from dementia, it seems like a ticket for disaster.
Plus mixing any alcohol with a lot of the medications these folks can be on, can be harmful as well.
If the facility can make sure that your dad ONLY gets 2 beers a day, that in all reality should be ok and not cause him to act inappropriately. I would be more concerned how it would react with his lorazepam.
Check with his doctor and explain to him/her what you've said here and let them decide.