My ILs live with us in our home. FIL has Alz which seems to be escalating daily. He has now placed multiple calls telling people things are “very bad”, “no one is taking care of them” DH has “turned against them” (because after years of caring for them we finally were so exhausted we had to have a service come in and help us), etc. I am home with them, my Dh has had to be home more with them AND we have a wonderful nursing service come in. They have more care than they could want or need. The calls don’t make a ton of sense but sound very pathetic and sad. Then, he hangs up the phone and his entire personality changes. He says that he is going to show us by getting us in trouble.
We are currently working to get them into the nursing home they WANTED to go to and are following their wishes. But this means we may have months before they are safely in care. We have a phone line in their rooms, and short of what we just heard, would never have considered taking it away. Right now, though, we are looking for ANY kind of experience/advice from someone who has been there or done that.
Thanks so much. This is my first post, but I have spent many hours on this site educating myself on elder care and dementia over the years. It is truly a unique community:)