When a mind is dementing its hard enough, but add evil to bthat and I feel defeated. I've been fighting it off trying my very best to protect her. But she feels like she must help, She does'nt know the meaning of enableing. I have looked for answers from freinds and family. I've looked for answerrs in the bible, and it's a 50/50 on stay or go. I just wondered has anyone else had to experience what its like. I'm 58 unmarried and 55 bof theses years has been here with her or next door. Its destoying me at thew thought of leaving. but knowing what your leaving her with to care for her... its almost more than I know how to. Evil seems to find victory more and more. where are the answers to continue? how to continue? is it death before death arrives? cause thats what it feels like now.
This is the person responsible for your mother .
To answer your question , we have seen other scenarios on this Forum where a parent ends up trusting the evil child , and turning on the child who was caring for them . Some have had to leave as it was a losing battle and wasn’t good for them . You sound at the end of your rope. Your life matters too . It’s ok to leave if you need too.
If the evil child has POA , not much you can do unless you went to court to try to get guardianship of Mom , which can be expensive .
I’ve come to the conclusion and accepted that not all elderly have a pleasant end of life and we can’t always change that . And we don’t have to die trying .