I’m the youngest of 4 siblings. Mom was diagnosed with dementia by PCP last year. Primary Care giver (step father) refused to take her to the doctor because when my mom was of sound mind and body, she refused to go. We were pleading for him to try and get her help because we noticed the decline in her health & memory. The last few months she has rapidly gotten worse. She seemed to be in stage 2-3 in the Spring, but she has now progressed to stage 6 in a matter of weeks to months. The rapid decline is staggering. My stepfather is burnt out and finally asked for help and is allowing us to help unlike before.
Tested for UTI which was negative. Mom has Grave’s Disease & on thyroid meds for it. Also has a growth on bottom of foot that is undiagnosed. She is incontinent and recently now has bowel issues. Initially, she was changing clothes and hiding the soiled ones. We managed to get her to wear depends but she takes them off in the night. She hides her soiled Depends throughout the house. She was taken to a neurologist on 8/14 and she couldn’t remember how many children she has, the fact she was previously married, lied about her health, cooking and self care. Doesn’t remember the names of her dogs. She doesn’t bathe or have any sense of self care. Her next appointment isn’t til 9/18 and without the diagnosis report we can’t get home care or ability to get her in an assisted facility. My sister got POA and I’m second in line if anything would happen to her. I know each case is unique and we prepared ourselves to the best of our ability to go through the stages with her but we were not prepared for this steep of a decline so quickly.