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You can't save her that is for sure but there are lots of things you can do. Sit and hold her hand, read to her , pray with her, play some soothing music. Light some candles. Snuggle beside her in the bed. slip tiny ice chips into her mouth. Massage her when you reposition. use her favorite scent. Put a cold cloth on her head if she feels hot. keep the sounds in the house normal,don't whisper and tip toe around speak in a normal tone of voice. let the kids comein and tell her what they have been doing at school. if there is anything that needs to be forgiven now is the time to release all that pain. tell he rit is alright for her to go, you will be OK and look after whoever is left behind. Above all tell her how much she is loved.
Second, we are tethered to them while there is still breath in their bodies. Our lives and emotions are in limbo, just as their lives are in limbo between the two planes. It is an uneasy state even if there is no suffering.
I've seen some people react to the end of life without feeling. It is just like another day at the office. I worry more about what went wrong with these people that something as profound as losing family doesn't faze them. I think it is hard on you because you are a caring person watching a loved one preparing to leave this world. I am glad you are there with her.