Jealous, angry, narcissistic mother put in nursing home. Some people were upset but did nothing to help. Stated she needed help but when asked what she wanted, could not give any answer except she needed help. My sister thought ok for my dad to continue to drive, even when he jumped the curb and hit Town Board office door. Any dr my mom wanted to see, he would take her to. They doctor hopped & GOT SAMPLES OF MEDS SO THERE WAS NO RECORD. Dad died 1 year ago, so now Mom has no one to manipulate to get her way. I personally think its about time she has consequences for her actions. By the way, nursing home started talking about separating them because all they did was yell, scream & fight with each other. I told nursing home that was all they ever did-nice Church going folks, right?. I am the scapegoat because I refused to cover their lies about how they lived. Was in my 30's before I was able to extricate myself. It was another 10 years before my daughters saw the light. My son in law says they were jealous. Finally, was able to get my sister to agree to palliative care only since she's 87, confined to bed. In last 5 years, she fractured her lower back, pelvis, hip & fell and broke her arm. When she was checked for broken arm, heart doc said she needed more heart stents and shed had a silent heart attack.
She has no idea she was signed in with a DNR,. I asked my sister when was enough, enough? Since I had stepped back and she was getting the phone calls at 5:30 am, she agreed with me finally.