Happy New Year 2021 to everyone; may this year bring us all some peace, hope and comfort!! After 6 months of only reading other threads but not posting myself; this morning I find myself in need of your thoughts, experiences and/or support with the issue of when to tell mom its okay to let go.
I don't think she's hanging on to anything at the moment but during the last 15 years, my mom specifically asked me to tell different terminally ill (3) family members it was okay to let go - 2 of these were via speaker phone and the 3rd was in person; in all 3 cases within moments of me Telling our loved ones that their immediate family members would be okay, they're all thriving in their lives because of the love and support they gave them (etc...) and that their job was done; all 3 of them passed within moments.
My mother is in the end stages of Alz dementia, in a MCF, I caregive for her daily for 4-8 hours. She's ambulatory but a full assist. She is on hospice. She's sleeping more, and talking more and more frequently about being tired and seeing her folks as the days go by; although I don't think she's holding on right now, I want to do my best to make sure she knows its okay to go when she's ready. She has tried to articulate some seemingly unfinished business, but I assured her we (sibs and me) were taking care of everything. It appears to subside however, I can't be 100% sure!
Please help me navigate this issue as I do want my mom here but not if she's only hanging on for us! I also, don't want her to feel like I'm telling her its time to go either. This is very difficult!
I hope this makes sense.
Thanks in advance for you thoughts!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR 2021!!!