My folks have both passed on. I was the main caregiver. My brother is executor. I have taken care of my folks for the last 25 years, 7 quite intensely, as their needs heightened. My brother, who is POA, executor of the will, golden child (according to mom) lives internationally.......he was NEVER here to help me with mom and dad. My sister, who lives about 10 hours away, called mom all the time, and that was her help. She was NEVER here to help me with anything also. Even at the end, when I let them know that things didn't look good for mom, they couldn't come! I was the ONLY one here to be with them, help them and basically watch them pass on to the new world! Now, they criticize me for virtually everything........BUT, they weren't HERE to help at any time of the game! I don't feel bad or guilty for HOW I handled anything. I did it my way and that was wonderful for both my mom and dad, so that's all that matters to me! I feel SO blessed to have been in a position that I could HELP them in their years of NEED. I had just retired from teaching, so had time, however I still wanted support, but NEVER got it from my siblings, even though I asked! I have a very supportive husband and daughter, and that's HOW I got through it. There was a time I did need to back off for a while, as I was entering a severe BURNOUT time for myself and felt I would be NOT doing anyone any good. This last year I did really start taking care of me, along with continuing to care for my mom. It was a challenge, but I knew I had to do it. I took care of me first, then my mom and then I wasn't as angry about the situation. Anyway, I was the one here, I was the one who took care of mom and I was the one who helped her along life's journey until her end. It was a BEAUTIFUL journey and I feel so BLESSED to have been there with her and for her......for it ALL! THEN CAME THE FAMILY for her Memorial and STUFF! I was SNUBBED, CRITICIZED and basically SHUNNED from the group (my family)..........because WHY????? I will NEVER, NEVER, NEVER understand this?!!!! I had been here, they had NOT! Now, I was the bad guy? Really???? Anyway.....my question is about the HUGE division of property. It's between just my siblings, which is a blessing. However, they want to simply make a list and take their first 10-15 items without any problems. I think it should be like how teams are picked. A goes first, then B, then C. Then you could go B, C, then A. Then C, A, and B. You could keep going with that pattern and every gets a chance to go first, until all the stuff is gone. But, they want the list and when I looked at the list, they, of course, want all the HIGH-DOLLAR, PRICEY items that mom and dad had. They want to leave me with the regular STUFF! I would really LOVE to hear WHAT has worked for other families with the division of property. (My brother WILL not do an INVENTORY of what is in the storage. Wants to take his expensive stuff, along with my sister and basically leave me the keys for everything else and I'll be STUCK clearing out the Storage units! I'm livid about this!) Please tell me WHAT worked for your families. I would greatly appreciate any help offered!