Step mom is 86 years old and has cognitive impairment with very poor memory. She has cared for my Dad (age 76) since he was diagnosed 13 years ago with Parkinson's Disease. My Brother and I moved them to NC so we could assist with his care as step-moms abilities became questionable. Brother was living with them but committed suicide last fall so now caregivers are there from 10pm to 6 am and 10 am to 2 pm every day while I work full time. Step mom was prescribed Zoloft for depression which she took briefly but then decided she didn't need it anymore.
Now she has decided that the caregivers are after Dad and want him in a sexual way. Two of them are older ladies and one is a young girl (early 20's) but nothing could be further from the truth. I'm blessed with 3 excellent caregivers but stepmom is so rude and nasty to them that I'm afraid they will quit. Stepmom even said she wished they were rude to Dad so he would appreciate her more. Unfortunately, she is hard of hearing and yells a lot. I don't think she means to be so cranky but it puts everyone around them in a difficult spot. Her kids are in another state and have flat out said they will NOT take her back. Dad still loves her most of the time although even he occassionally questions whether or not he is really married to her. He said he wouldn't have married someone like that by choice.
My questions are this: 1) Is there any legal way I can make her take the Zoloft? I've tried everything-pleading, bribing, begging, threatening but she won't take them.
2) How do I control her jealousy of the caregivers? We all got together as a group to reassure her they are only here to help them but her memory is so bad, she's already forgotten.
3) What is our legal responsibility for keeping her here if she keeps making everyone so miserable? I have POA for both of them and handle all bills, dr visits, etc. I'm still grieving my little brother and have a husband and my own Mom who is moving here from another state as soon as her house is sold and I'm working 50-60 hours a week . Things would be a lot easier if she would just take the Zoloft or go back where she came from, if her kids would take her. Dad is a joy most of the time and the only issues with him originate because of her. Advice please!