I'm young, 26, married and a manager at my work. My job is mentally demanding and tiring. Every second or third week I buy a bottle of red wine (I don't drink any other kind of alcohol), and I would typically finish it over 4-5 days. I always feel very grateful for being able to afford things like wine now and then, and I think it's a treat that can be considered healthy. All my glasses are marked with a 6 oz line so I don't over pour.
My mother is also fairly young, but disabled (in her home Russia) and has a swarm or emotional and personality issues. I don't think she really likes me despite that she's living with me and my husband in our 2 br for free, and I took her through becoming a permanent resident and about to launch into getting her disability here in the states. The only support she provides is food for herself and me, and she was the one who insisted on it.
Today she saw me read a book in my bedroom with a glass of wine and raised hell because in her opinion I'm an alcoholic who craves booze and 'gets twitchy and shaky if I don't get it.' My own jaw dropped when she ran into my room and spat that into my face. She then proceeded to yell at the top of her voice trying to pick up a fight with me, and now she's giving me silent treatment. All of this has happened before, and I blame myself for not learning a lesson with the wine... but then I'm not her little girl anymore. I don't feel at home in my own apartment. I also have no idea how to handle the yelling and hatred and threats to go back to Russia because she 'can't stand my drinking problem.' Help?