How do you handle "truth tellers" in a nursing home?

You don't say how long your mother has been in the NH, but after a while it won't matter. The problem we have as care givers, or children, is that we only see what we see in the time we visit. Sometimes we feel guilty because not enough is being done for our loved one, or sometimes you want to hug the staff for taking care of her so well. As for the other residents, there is not much you can to stop them from blurting out what they want. It is what it is. Now if you want to have your mother stay in her room most of the time, away from others, that is your choice. There may be times we do not see that are great for our loved ones too where they are very content. But with dementia, they will forget soon enough, and you can always talk with the facility director to have people's conversation redirected better if you see that it is becoming bothersome to others. They should be doing that on their own, but you need to be an advocate for your mother. Always raise your concerns with her immediate caregivers at the facility, all the way to the top if necessary.

This is incredible. They obviously have no experience. Talk to the caregivers and authorities. I would get her out of there. If someone told my mom that i would be livid and get her out. Oh those poooor women.

I have had several in my extended family in nursing homes, and ALL of the residents that I talked with said that they knew they would die there, and ALL of them wanted to go home. I can understand that. They also, usually, understand why they are there, but there are residents whose children rarely come see them and they do feel abandoned and warehoused.
There is no way to keep your mother from talking to these other people without putting her in solitary confinement. The seniors I know, with dementia, in nursing homes are not stupid - they know full well that they will die there.
People who are depressed will often say things that others find upsetting. My sweet natured aunt kind of lives in her own little world, and tries to ignore the negative people. Hopefully your mom can do the same.

it is one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do I have to do this with my mother in December she ask me everyday if she can go homeshe has a roommate butter roommate doesn't really speak mom is very hard of hearing and has dementia so when she asked me are you here to take me home I have her part of the room set up just like her bedroom at home and I say mom this is your home these are things in this is your apartment that seems to calm her down