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Full-time home care is very expensive (generally much more costly than assisted living and unaffordable for most people) and, for many, isolating. If were a 91 year-old capable of socializing in any way, I'd like to have the company of others, even if just to watch the action.
Also, if someone needs a lot of care, once the full-time aide goes home for the day, who provides the care? The loved one who just came home from a full day's work.
It's absolutely true that checking your parent into an assisted living community doesn't leave you footloose and fancy-free. You're still going to be running errands, managing finances, spending lots of time there, and of course, being on call. However, it does mean you can at least put your feet up at the end of your work day, have a good night's sleep, and enjoy the company of your friends and family on the weekends. Also, many find they are able to have a renewed and more pleasant relationship with their parent.
But simply "put them in a nursing home" is not easy, not necessary until the end, and very costly. Plus, do people realize that before the elderly can go anywhere - they need to be assessed first by the facility? Good luck.