....just when I think I'm doing better as far as not trying to "help" my parents so much.
Seems like every day there's something I have to think about that each one of them need or want, doctors appointments for both of them constantly. Both had mild strokes last summer, dad has uncontrolled diabetes, diabetic retinopathy and neuropathy in the feet. Mom is really a joy to be around but my dad and I have some dysfunction of sort. I'm constantly looking at my calendar to see which one has an appointment where that day. I thought I was doing pretty good with my stress level until today when a friend of my dad's told me that my dad told him my mom is getting on his nerves. they have been divorced for 42 years and avoided each other the whole time until they both ended up in the same assisted-living. Mom felt sorry for me and wanted to help me out with my dad as far as little things that she could do there to help him with. She made sure he had oranges peeled for his snacks so his diabetes stays level etc. etc. Dad will be moving back home soon ( and I have been given tons of advice here to NOT let that happen, I AGREE)... we will be neighbors again :-(
Doctors, nurses say he has that right to choose if he wants to come back home or not, they agree he's better off at assisted-living but they can't make him stay and he has not been declared incompetent or a danger to himself.
It's been an absolutely beautiful day today after many days of rain, normally I would be in my garden thoroughly enjoying myself but I haven't got a d*mn thing done all day. I haven't been this stressed for several months, had two naps already today. After his friend just told me that my mom is getting on his nerves it really p*ssed me off so I'm going to tell her to quit helping him. The things my dad put her through that caused the divorce I wouldn't even look him in the eye...SHE was HELPING ME by HELPING HIM!!! I didn't want her to and only told her OK if it didn't bother her, she seem to be happy by being needed.
Some of you know my story here, and I really thought I had this problem with my dad not moving home nipped in the butt. He told his friend he's moving home this weekend and who do you suppose is going to help him move ? I am his POA and I don't even want to be around him right now let alone making sure he's OK every day down there at his "cabin"
He will be getting Help At Home again but that won't kick in until he's living at the residence. Grrrrr!
My husband and I are expecting our first grandbaby in December which is been the greatest joy in our lives and that's all I want to think about right now...just having a hard time this week...angry cause I got to tend to two aging feeling parents who can act like children
I guess I need more advice on how to back off more or learn how to care less I don't know