I just read a respite question from glowgo about what to expect when your love one returns from respite care and I found the answers helpful. I "need" to put my 83 yr old mom who lives with me in respite care at the end of this month for 4 days. I am a nervous wreck, knots in my stomach. Mom goes to day care 5 days a week and enjoys it most of the time. Mom is a HAPPY 4 year old and I am so afraid I will break her spirit with this move not to mention the fear of her falling!