My sister spent the day with Mom and took her to a salon and then lunch and then tricked her into going to the MD. Mom acted just like I told her she would. Mom doesn't like MD and I take her to the one MD that prescribes her BP and cardiac meds. My sis wanted her to see a ortho for her worsening back and leg pain. Moms 86 and has sever arthritis /osteoporosis etc. She has dementia but still is very there when it comes to this kind of thing. My sister and her really got into it and were very nasty to one another and a nice day turned into a horrible one. Sis calls me and starts yelling at me saying Mom needs to be in assisted living etc. She is well cared for in her retirement condo-I live 10 min away and I have a caregiver come M-F for half day and then I'm there on the other days. I have given my Sis books about dementia and asked her to come to support groups etc so we can learn together how to handle this, but she says she lives too far away (50mi). I don't want this to destroy our relationship because she helps so much but I am not putting Mom in AL . It may come to that but not over a poorly planned Dr appt.that I warned her wouldn't go well. I tried to get her to tell me what putting Mom in AL would change and she hung up on me. I do think she has some issues with me being POA and am handling all the finances but that was moms wishes and I try to include all the siblings in major decisions. I am as transparent about everything I do as I can be. I guess I just needed to vent-Thanks for the ear .