How do I handle my husband's rude sisters?

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For Christmas, one of my 4 sisters-in-law was going to host the Christmas celebration with 5 siblings and their families at her house. Each one of us were told to bring something. My husband asked me to call her to see if we should bring more than a Jewish Apple Cake. I did. She, without even saying "hello" first, immediately started screaming at me! She was screaming at me about a game we were going to play. I was the one who had to calm her down as I don't have time for acrimonious behavior! I held my tongue, like a Godly woman should, but I was not happy with her nasty attitude! Then a week later I found out that 3 of my inept sisters-in-law had given my daughter a belated December 4 birthday gift to her in the form of a photo of all 4 sisters-in-law (so my daughter received this gift on December 26). I had already been given a similar photo of the 4 of them. One sister is kind. What do I do about the self-serving 3 sisters-in-law? Comments and suggestions are appreciated!

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Staceyb: Wow.. I am batting "1,000." So many errors...time for cataract surgery. So sorry.
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Should have hang UP
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Staceyb: Thank you so much for the birthday well wishes! That's very sweet of you!
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Continued- "who are those 33 people?" Me-"there's my friends and relatives, of course." Sorry my phone hit send before I could proofread and finish.
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Staceyb: You're absolutely right! I SHOULD have hung on the screaming SIL, whom I called simply to ask if I could bring anything else to the Christmas event. A person, such as she, who didn't even say hello first IMO is presumably ill in the head. The thing is is that all 4 SIL's are so closely bonded that if I HAD hung up, I would have their wrath coming down on me like the storm of the century. I am so sorry to hear that you, too, has a SIL who choses to self medicate (not manage her illness). Well individuals know that doesn't work very well, thus the a acrimony you receive from her! Now why in the world would I display in my home a photo including a person who had recently bitten my head off, verbally?!! "You're sure that they will be on their best behavior?" Oh, how wonderful that would be! Here's 3 of them-"
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LL, if an inlaw called me up Screaming, I would have hung up immediately! It has happened to me before, as my SIL is a bipolar Alcoholic, who is actively drinking, and does not medically manage her mental disorder.

The picture "gift", just weird, in my opinion! Now if a family party was in session, and picture packets were being handed out to the group, thats one thing, but to a young lady, a single framed picture, yes, a simple thank you, as your daughter did, was fine, I guess, still strange though! It seemed more like a dig at you, IMO, but I'm not sure why? Especially at a holiday event?

But, there you have it, there's not a lot you can do, but ignore their strange behavior. Insighting further comment only give them a reason to further attack you. Don't give it to them.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I hope it is a Merry Occasion! Your husband sounds like he has your back, thats great!

Your Birthday party, your rules! If someone gets out of line, politely ask them to leave! That would get their attention! Nobody should upset you 70th birthday! I'm sure that they will be on their best behavior, or why come at all? I truly hope its a fun event! Take care!
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jeannegibbs: A little extra gift-Not so much, e.g. yea, "here's a photo of us as a gift. We have given each other expensive gifts and that's all we had left was a photo of us SIL's in a cheap frame." They didn't say that, but should have because that was the reality of it!! They never learned social skills and three SIL's call themselves Christians.
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Except ONE
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Thank you, JessieBelle. The weirdo SIL'S can learn a new skill if they want to--socialization! Thing is none of except can grasp the concept!
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Staceyb: The sister-in-law who screamed at me-that happened over the phone. Rethinking it, that was extremely generous of me NOT to hang up on her! She didn't even say hello for goodness sakes! I have changed my Social Media account so that the 3 dysfunctional SIL's can only see some of my posts. I would NEVER CONSIDER GIVING A PERSON A PHOTO OF MYSELF! HOW VERY SELF-SERVING THAT WAS OF THEM! One SIL is kind. I will stay away from the bad behaving ones as much as possible. My 70th birthday party is coming up on Saturday, January 14 and they had best not mess it up, else I WILL NOT RESPOND TO NASTY ATTITUDES! My husband did nothing wrong. In fact, only one of them had responded to my planned birthday party. I stood up trying to speak asking if any were coming to my birthday party, he stood up for me, saying in a loud voice the second or third "Nancy is trying to speak, please be quiet."
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