My mother-in-law is 90; suffers from mid-level dementia as well as multiple maladies attributed to aging. She is becoming less and less cooperative more and more self absorbed. She has lived with us for approx. 18 months since my father-in-law died. My wife is her eldest child of three and has assumed the role of caretaker and POA. We appear to be having more personality issues that medical at this point. My mother-in-law had always been a strong willed individual who was use to being in control. She can be manipulative and eager to use guilt as a motivator. She also is expecting of getting her way simply " because you love her". She refuses to go weekly 4 hr. adult daycare for us because she "doesn't want to." My wife needs a break, but is not yet ready to move her into a facility permanently. My mother-in-law seems to not be willing or able to accept that she has few options. Neither of the other children is able or willing to take a turn having mom live with them. My mother-in-law is becoming more child-like in how she is dealing with our situation. Any suggestions regarding how to handle getting her to restbit? Do we have any legal options that would help us get her into a facility for either the short term or permanent stay?