My mom is 80 yrs old, English is her second language, she does not speak it well. So I have to take care of everything for her. When my dad was alive, he took care of most things so she didn't have to. I am one of six children, but the only one who checks on her daily. When she gets angry with one, she is angry with all. I feel like her punching bag on a daily basis, but I have to talk to her daily so that I know she is ok. Today she was argueing with one of my brothers, in the argument she had to state how none of us care about her and we are all horrible children. I try to make her realize that by saying all, she is hurting my feelings, but she doesn't care. I need some sort of coping mechanisms to help me deal with her. I also have 6 year old twins at home. One of them needs extra help with everything so I feel myself being pulled in too many directions. Her bad mood transfers to me and my children are feeling it too. How sad is it when I come back from my mom's and my children see my face and say what did grandma do this time? I'm tired. Don't know if any of this makes any sense.