My mother is 87, she moved to US 45yrs ago, I the youngest of 3 move here with her, she visits my country and sisters once a year but never more than 4-5 weeks, they don't work and all their children are grown, I've been a single parent for 15yrs, I support myself and help to babysit my grandkids now and then. my mother is in good health compare to people her age but she is a constant complainer, she makes it very clear that she will stay here till the end of her days
I spend most of my weekends with her yet when she talks with her friends on the phone in front of me she states that I some time spend time with her and she will never say that I am a good daughter, she limits her coments to say that I behave ok and that I am doing my job as a daughter not more not less. this is painful to me because I feel that I've been giving more that I received, lets say my relationship with her throu my childhood and adolecent years left much to be desire, i feel very hurt when she makes this coments, yet mention this to her does not acomplish anything, Itell her that I dont need any thanks or gifts or anything but that her coments even to my children really bothers me. what to do?
I feel spent.........hurt...........and on a dead end.
thanks for being there