I have tried everything and so has a Psychiatrist and Therapist.
My mom is severely crippled from Rhematoid Arthritis, Peripheral Neuropathy, Chronic Kidney Failure and complete bladder incontinence. I have been caring exclusively for her for about 20 years on and off and 3 years ago, my brother and I had to make a decision to move her here to where I live because she was making a financial mess of her life and was declining in health. I had already had plenty of experience taking care of her so I was the likely candidate to take on the long term responsibility. One year after we moved her here, my brother began exhibiting symptoms of some type of brain disease. He was finally diagnosed in January 2014 with Frontal Temporal Degeneration. Over the course of 2014 he lost his ability to talk and communicate and think. My mother fell apart emotionally and since he lived five hours away, I spent the next 14 months bringing her to see him and spending weekends with him. My mother refused to read anything about his disease and the prognosis and basically put her head in the sand. In January of 2015, his son decided to withdraw food and water because he could no longer swallow and developed aspiration pneumonia. My mom and I spent the last 9 days of his life watching the most horrific thing I have ever seen. Now, not only do I have to deal with taking care of a parent who cannot function without help everyday but she is in a deep depression that has enveloped my entire life. I have sought help from Psychiatrists, Therapist, Church and her veil of grief is not even beginning to lift. I haven't even been able to grieve for the loss of my only sibling due to carrying her cross too.