About five years ago i wrote this forum seeking advice on keeping my mother at home. At that time my mother had become very mean and was very hard to get along with, she has always been mean sprited but was more so since being diagnosed Dementia. I ended up placing her in a assisted living facility in the city that she lived which is 75 miles from me and i went there every weekend for the past 4 years. i spent as much time with her as i could on a weekend bases. She did not adjust to being there and cried and begged to go home, but most times that she was taken to her home for visits she did not realize that it was her home. Over the years her condition got worse and i was not satified with the care that she was getting at the facility so i moved her to an assisted living facility 15 minutes from where i live and go there every single day to see her after i get off from work. i also get her ready for bed each night and into bed because she can no longer walk or stand. i am not feeling this over whelving guilt because I did not keep her at home when her mind was better and she could get around, now she hardly speaks,but she does know who I am. She screams for help after lunch everyday for approx two hours. I have taken her to a neurologist and geriatic doctor. Medications has been prescribed but nothing seems to help. I want to help her but I do not know what to do. She seems to be suffering so much and has fear in her eyes. i keep thinking that she would be doing so much if only I kept her home where she wanted to be. She is 82 years old and i am 61 and still employed full time..What should i do at this stage to ease my guilt?.