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Completely forgive yourself. Don’t think about this again. Don’t dwell on it, wish you hadn’t, mull it over, just let it go.
Now do do something that gives you a break.
What was building inside that lead to the scream? step back and look at it with logic as a problem to solve. When i cared for my dad - i let him get to me. He would try to make me angry so that i wouldn't come back & that meant my stepmom could not go away for the weekend for a caregiver break. [He did not want her to leave for any reason]. If i couldn't ignore, distract, use humor - i would have to disengage - either go upstairs or outside where he couldn't get to me. I would have to do that until i was calm enough to deal. and yes - i screamed - outside often and loudly. Once in front of the neighbors who had come over to cut wood.
you are only human and dealing with a tough situation. Be gentle with yourself. try to understand yourself. Give yourself a hug. Give your mom a hug and tell her you love her. You are probably feeling pretty bruised right now -so be gentle with yourself.
apologize right.
Just say "I should not have yelled I'm sorry"
These are the hardest words ever. But just say them and you and she will feel better.
There is NOTHING more you can do than try not to do it again.
And, now I come to think of it, avoid triggers. What was happening?