I recently had to make the decision to put my mom in a skilled nursing home and she was just recently diagnosed with dementia and alzhimers . My father passed away in September and my oldest brother was murdered in 2014, my family has been through a lot of in this past year. The only ones left are myself and my mom and my younger brother who suffers from mental illness. Since I had to make this decision I have fallen in to a deep depression and feel really guilty that I had to put my mother in a nursing at the age of 61 but she can't care for herself and needs 24 hour assistance and care and I'm unable to do it because I half to work to support my family and pay my bills and my youngest brother is no condition to take care of her either, before my dad I promised him that I would could for my mom and brother and now I can't and the guilt is setting in and I feel alone and really depressed like I feel like I'm in a dark place in my life and I don't like that feeling. I feel as if I have let my family down and I'm a failure. Is the way I feel about putting my mom in nursing home and the guilt normal, is there something I can do to get passed this feeling ?