I am executor of my parent's will and have financial POA. Mom has AD. Dad is 83 with various issues, but mentally OK. Dad told me this means I will be selling their house, settling the estate, paying bills if/when they are unable. They first asked my older sister to do this, but she didn't want it. (Not a surprise as she never helps much and usually only argues and creates needless drama.) They didn't want an attorney to do this, so they asked me. I assured them I would see to it that their wishes were carried out. They specified a number of valuables that clearly will go to me and others that will go to my sister. However, the majority of their belongings such as furniture, art work on the walls, china, crystal, jewelry are not specified. It will be up to me to sell what I can and divide the money between the two of us. The gray area is that my sister has young adult children who could likely use some of the furniture. Perhaps some of them might even want a few personal items. I know sister will feel entitled to take whatever is there without thinking twice. How do you handle this? Do you advise your sibling that what remains in the house is now part of the "estate" that must be settled and that she cannot just take whatever strikes her fancy? She also would not think she needs to pay me any reasonable value for whatever she may want from the house. If I tell her any of this, it's likely she will think I'm being too hardlined, and things will escalate it into an argument. My relationship with my sister has been distant for years and I assume when our parents are gone I won't see her much if at all. There's not much of her relationship I care to preserve, I just want to do the right thing. Thanks.