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My mom has lived with me for about 6 years. She has fallen two different times in that time period and has refused medical care both times. She is fell yesterday and refused all medical attention. I was home due to she had a doctor's appointment which she cancelled after she fell. I took an additional day off of work since she is unable to get up and down without my assistance. The problem is her long term care. She is uncooperative, illogical and makes poor decisions regarding her medical care. I have no help from anyone. I must return to work but if I leave her and something happens I fear I will be liable for her poor decisions. I'm not willing to be charged with or go to jail for neglect. I have called the Tulsa police Department non-emergency; the Senior Life Services; and Adult Protective Services. APS have not responded to any of my messages. What I need is to figure out how to protect her well being, and my liability regarding her care, or I will have to have her removed from my home and into some sort of care center like an assisted living center. I am not willing to risk being charged with neglect or go to jail because of her poor and illogical decisions that may harm her health by refusal for medical attention.

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I was told by Visiting Nurses, the head of an elderly facility, and a doctor: the next time your mom falls, and is taken to the ER, you can tell them she is unable to live on her own, it is too dangerous, there is no one to watch her, and they will have to place her in a facility. (the doctors at the ER will threaten you. "It will cost $3000 a day for every day we keep her, if there is no reason to keep her and she could safely go home." If Mom doesn't have any money, they can send all the bills they can crank out. Who is going to pay them? YOU aren't responsible, I hope. (There are some states where the offspring, for some reason, are responsible for the bills of their parents. Better check it out.) But yes, better see an attorney and explain the situation, it's best to have forms signed so you can get the ball rolling on getting her into a safe place.
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Thank you. I'm working on a few things. Just got her on a case file with Adult Protective Services and I am looking at finding an attorney.
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When she falls she needs to be checked out by an MD. You need Guardian status ASAP. See an attorney about this soon. Yes it can be expensive if there is a battle among siblings. So get everybody on the same page and agree who will be guardian. Once you have that court order in hand, you call 911, you wave your court order appointing you Guardian and she goes to the ER
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