I'm referring to my MIL's visitors who drop in etc. My MIL is 89 years old and has Alzheimer's. She is not verbal and lays in a bed in my living room all day. I am a widow and so it is just me and her. My brother in law is a "drop in" and it drives me crazy. As MIL doesn't speak..........he talks non stop to me. He lines up 4-5 beers on my porch outside and then appears at the door with one in hand. I have to wait till all the beers are gone before he leaves. This happens irregularly..........any time of the day.......any day,...so I can't predict it. When I ask him to let me know when he's coming, he is vague and says he just stops by on a moments notice when he gets a chance. Arrrrgh.
I like Pam's idea! Good luck!
When I was married, my then-husband's sister would call her mother (who lived with us) and tell her she was coming for a weekend visit. MIL would forget to tell me, and I would have plans for the weekend with my kids, etc - which I then had to change to entertain the visitors. Put me in a rotten mood all weekend. I finally stopped changing my plans and told them it was fine to come and visit, but if they couldn't do me the courtesy of calling ME and notifying me of their visit (because MIL would forget to do so), since this was MY house, not MIL's, then they were on their own as far as entertainment, because I wasn't changing my plans anymore.